For Men

So you think she might be pregnant.

Here's some quick advice that may be of benefit to you right now:

The Do's

1) Listen. The situation involves more than just you. There are now three lives to think about.

2) Stay Calm. She needs your support now more than ever. She may be carrying the baby, but you are BOTH parents, and regardless of your relationship in the future, that baby needs you too.

3) Talk about it - not only with each other, but prepare to talk with parents and others close to the situation. Hiding the news from people who can genuinely help you only increases the stress.

4) Gather all the facts. Get all the information and seek wise counsel so you can make the best decision for both of you.

5) Express yourself honestly - it's normal to have feelings of anger, frustration and fear. But make sure she knows she is not alone.

The Don'ts

1) Don't bail. The more you run from this, the harder it becomes to think and act clearly.

2) Don't pressure her. Applying pressure will only push her away, possibly into a regretful situation. You will do well to work together as a team.

3) Don't forget. You have a very active role in this situation. Listen to input as well as give your thoughts.

Services Provided for Men

1) One-on-one counseling with a male peer counselor who can help you sort through the tough decisions that need to be made.

2) Classes that teach men about the role they play in their baby’s lives, including how to care for a new born baby and the positive influence a father can have on the life of their child.

3) Abortion Recovery for men. Care Net Pregnancy Resource Centers offers men an 8-week course that promotes healing for the emotional and spiritual effects of abortion. This course is confidential, free of charge and open to any man who was involved in an abortion.